Why Do Women Cheat?
I am no psychological expert, nor am I a student of the psychological patterns of the human race… but I am a woman… and I have cheated in the past! Does this mean that I will do so from here on out? I do not believe so. What I do believe though, Is that there are several reasons (excuses) why I feel women stray. Whilst men cheat more than women, the race is becoming a lot more competitive. With the new lease of independence women have in society nowadays, the gap is closing. Not to say all women are now shallow and disloyal. In fact, women rarely stray because they find someone better looking or more successful than the men they’re with. In many cases it’s what men do (or don’t do) that drives their partners into the arms of other men, but most times than none, men and women often cheat for different reasons.
Here are a few reasons that might explain (though don’t justify) why women cheat.
She’s Seeking Revenge
This one’s not rocket science. Don’t cheat and don’t get cheated on. Although this is probably the worst and disgustingly immature reason for infidelity it is the most common. Tit for tat at its most extreme ‘getting your partner back’ or ‘teaching them a lesson’ is a sad outcry of unhealed pain.
Day in day out, routines become repetitive and if you become accustomed to being apart of the routine, you become apart of the bore. This isn’t to say your sex life needs jazzing up. The sex life may even be what is making her stay with you. But the fact of the matter is a new sexual partner becomes a new way of changing the generic pattern! Being in a relationship means being there for the bad times, and women with supportive partners are unlikely to be driven to desperate measures. But if you’ve ignored her, or treat her problems as an irrelevance, she may start looking for excitement elsewhere. If you feel like you do all you can in a situation like this, there is a glitch and difference in opinion somewhere along the line, in this case- you can find it, or do nothing!
She’s Seeking Affection, The Passion Has Ran Dry
Once the honeymoon period is over, it is easy to fall out of affectionate ways and assumptions creep in. You expect she knows how much you care about or want her so feel there is no need to be as demonstrative with letting her know. The kissing and cuddling become a distant memory and wild nights of passion are few and far between. The quantity of sex invariably wanes in a relationship, especially when responsibility – a child, a better job or whatever it might be – walks through the door. But sex shouldn’t disappear, and it shouldn’t become stale and mundane.
The man she’s cheating with may be no better looking than you, but the bottom line is he wants her and doesn’t hesitate to let her know whereas you no longer seem all that bothered.
She Feels Shut Out
For whatever reason, her man becomes cold, emotionally withdrawn, harsh. It could be stress from work, colleagues, or being an Arsenal fan (I’m one of those, its stressful) but whatever it is some men respond to their own problems – even if they have nothing to do with the relationship by bestowing the negative feelings up on it. The feeling is normally one of entrapment and the misery can be infectious.
She Wants Out
A cowardly approach to having ‘The Conversation’, like some men –women can also be undeniable whimps with this, especially when it comes to breaking up. So she may avoid ‘The Conversation’ and have an affair instead. She may even want to set another relationship up before she leaves the present one, to avoid the heartache of being alone. Or it could be a matter of ‘proving to herself’ she can do what she wants as she is already well and truly over the current relationship.
What ever it is, in situations like this often there is a ‘Think like a man act like a woman’ mentality, hence why things are much more calculated and precise. As I said, I’m no expert. Just a reflective thought.
Billi John (@HoneyBeeBilli)
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