Ex’s being friends? (Relationship advice)
A more reserved editorial for ya, Leggggggooooo!
You meet, you date, you break up (or, possibly you live together or get pregnant lol). But what if one of you wants to stay friends afterward? Is that even possible?
It is possible to successfully pull off the ‘dating to friends’ scenario, here are some points to consider:
How the Break Up Happened?
The method in which you two broke up is an important indicator on whether you two will remain friends. After all, if one of you engaged in bad break up behavior you either won’t remain friends, or your newly developed friendship won’t last very long. If the person who initiated the break up wants to remain friends, it can be very difficult and almost cruel to the one who got dumped. After all, they may wonder why their ex couldn’t stand to be with them but now wants to hang out “as a friend.” Confusing.
What Went On During the Relationship?
Friendships require the same amount of trust and kindness that relationships do. So if one of you cheated or abused the other, it’s unlikely a friendship will fare any better. The same applies for any reoccurring issues that just never seemed to go away. Even the smallest of slights, such as forgetting to call when you’re supposed to or ignoring your partner when you know they’re in a down mood, can carry over into your friendship. A friendship between two ex’s simply means they don’t have sexual feelings for each anymore. Any communication issues or problems, however, will remain.
Are the Two of You Really Over?
If any lingering feelings of love (or lust) remain with one of you, forging a friendship too soon will undoubtedly cause hurt feelings and misunderstandings. You can’t just immediately become friends if one of you hasn’t come to terms with the fact that your relationship has ended. Initiating this (whether you are the one who broke up or the one who still has feelings) is just plain cruel. Sometimes one partner will ask to remain friends simply because they like having someone around who adores them. But this type of friendship isn’t true, and in every case will come to an end once the other has found real love.
How Much Time Has Gone By?
There is a process that comes with getting over a break up. Friendships ARE different, and that’s the point, Saying “let’s stay friends” forty seconds after you break up probably won’t work.
Let me know your thoughts from experience!!!!!!!!
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3 Comments
Staying friend with a ex is something that is very achievable but like you have said, it is based on the type of relationship you have cultivated from the start. but the amount of time needed to stay away from shud come from your understanding of each other. i mean i stayed friends with my ex right after we broke up, you could say forty second after, but the time it took to actual cultivate the friendship took time, so you might say you guy are friend but when does it become friendship??
No, you cannot and why would anybody want to be friends with a ex. should be moving on to the right relationship. Life goes on, now being polite is one thing, nothing wrong with waving a hello, but hanging out, talking, texting or sexing no, no. Out with the old in with the new, best thing if a person want to be happy.