Women are Drama Queen’s and don’t we all know it! I hereby bring this painful and irritating issue to light and hopefully save someone from going crazy by Women’s cruel/manipulative tactics.
The answer is quite easy. Women CREATE drama simply to put men to the test. Women are attention-seekers in constant need of reassurance and affirmation that someone cares for them and wants to protect them. There is a correlation between the amount of drama a woman creates and the success of a relationship, based on these factors. The less women believe they are being cared for and protected (whether real or perceived), the more drama they create. In the realms of courtship and intimate relationships, women CONSTANTLY put men to the test with the use of comments, complaints, and DRAMA. Drama is employed by women to put people, often men, on the spot, by exploiting their emotional strengths and weaknesses to the breaking point. Women quickly judge how well men handle drama; this is when they determine how much patience, courage, will, passion, and other important characteristics are present or absent in a man.
Why are men so oblivious to this? There are two main reasons. First, it is all played out subconsciously, and second, we have been socially programmed through media, pop culture, and belief systems to become totally unaware of this fact. For women, drama separates the boys from the men. Some of us rise to the occasion, while others are clearly not up to the challenge and wither away like an undesirable species. In relationships, the more a man passes a woman’s test, the more control and intimacy they achieve with their partner. Women want men who are in control of themselves, yet slightly out of control; a confident, independent individual who excels in different arenas of life. This is because women ultimately “surrender” themselves, to a certain extent, to a man who they believe to be “the one”.
Jay Z has a book called Decoded and Amaru has a book called #RUTALK (lol i’m lying)
Lets’ go in on the translation of the IQ (Intimacy Query) and i’ll tell you FROM NOW… i can’t stand this IQ talk women do at all (Amaru vent)
What she says: “So, where are you taking me?”
What she means: Wants sense of mystery/romance created for her
What she says: “I have a lot of guy friends.”
What she means: Testing waters of jealousy, insecurity
What she says: “Girls are bitchy…I don’t have many female friends.”
What she means: Same as above, but w/hint of autonomy
What she says: “I don’t play games.”
What she means: I play games CONSTANTLY, I’m just tired of losing
What she says: “Me and my girls are having a girls night out.”
What she means: Employing sense of mystery to see if you care
“I’m not worried about guys…just focused on school/work.”
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I could go on and i promise you at this point EVEN if you’re a female … the reality of the RAW truth has you relating #DONTFRONT
All these techniques are a women’s way of testing men to see if the man is jealous, insecure, overly-nice, manipulative, self-serving, spineless, or basically, worth their trouble. To a woman, the most UNATTRACTIVE thing in the world is INSECURITY in men. Why do you think nice guy’s finish last? Because being nice, usually means, but not always, being insecure in one way or another. Women constantly test men’s security. Since they already know they can seduce us with their bodies, they need not try this as a test, unless you passed all the others. Women are only attracted to men whom they seek intimacy with, men who are stern and in control of themselves, yet not jealous or controlling. It makes us irresistible.
EXAMPLE:
Woman: “So, where are you taking me?”
Failed Answer: “Where do you want to go?”
Passed Answer: “It’s a surprise.”
Super-Seduction Pass: “Don’t worry, you’re going to LOVE it, and if you don’t….too bad…” (with a slight smirk for a touch of humour)
Do you see the difference? The failed answers are either submissive or insecure responses. The normal passed answers are alright, but not necessarily good for creating attraction, ambiguity or indifference, all of which keep women interested (at least to the point where they will create more tests and drama). The super-seduction pass answers let the woman know you are in control, and if she wants something, she can give in to you. It creates mystery and tension, which, when used together, are VERY powerful and seductive tools.
The bottom line is, when it comes to dealing with a woman’s drama, recognise it, and act accordingly- that is, be a MAN, not MANHANDLED.
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This is so true. We play a lot of games it’s unreal. We can’t help it, wanna clock wht it’s sayin b4 we waste time in it
When people say that “they can’t help it,” they really mean they don’t want to take responsibility for what they are saying or doing, which means that they don’t want to change. That’s like men saying that they can’t help but cheat on their wives/girlfriends. Human beings have the capacity to control their actions so the phrase that “they can’t help it” is just a poor excuse for dysfunctional, irresponsible behavior.
I do think women test the waters, but I dont think thats a bad thing. Rarely does a female, who is in a relationship, honestly admit that she only wants to be with her current partner for the short term, and look for a long term partner later on down the line. Thus women, though often subconsciously, try to figure out if their partner has long-term potential. So if a woman doesn’t want to waste time and wants to find out before she says the big “I do” then I dont think there’s anything wrong with that. Yes it may cause drama, but if two people are really on the same level and share the same point of view, then testing waters will only confirm their similarities. Where it gets tricky though, is when women realise their incompatibility between them-self and their partner, but stay with them because they think they can “change” their partner. Even when it seems there’s no hope for change, they stay together because they’ve reached the point where they’re “in love”. Bottom line: its not an issue of women causing drama, but its an issue of women settling for men that are not what they want and then complaining that they wont change.
How about instead of testing the waters, women actually try to swim with their men in the waters? Men and women can actually find out a lot about each other by having open, honest and rational conversations instead of playing stupid drama games.
I totally agree with you. However I don’t blame women for their drama if it is a selection process to determine the men from the boys. A man should be able to rise to the situation and to be honest relationships are not really the same without the drama.
Yes, that’s the problem. No one blames the women for anything; instead, they blame the men for everything. Men should separate the women from the girls and dump females who engage in immature drama games.
What I say: Fuck playing these stupid games.
What I really mean is: Oh… this must be why I suck at dating.
I dont want to admit it but there is an element of truth in this (I say element because I dont want to admit that it can potentially be true). However depending on how its done it may not necessarily ne a bad thing, only problem is that people have either:
1) Forgetten where to draw the line
2)
I dont want to admit it but there is an element of truth in this (I say element because I dont want to admit that it can potentially be true). However depending on how its done it may not necessarily be a bad thing, only problem is that people have either:
1) Forgotten where to draw the line
2) The relationship is all about the game and not the man
and I will like to add its not just women who have a complicated way of getting a point across
What about men who cause the damn drama?? Who are hot and cold…who lead a woman on…who say one day…I fucking loooove you and the next day they are gone. I don’t like the dram…I just want to be happy…but when some asshole plays one role one day and another the next…fuck yeah, I cause drama! I have to stand up for myself – say WTF is your problem! I totally get fake drama…but when a man brings it on but can’t admit it…that is no man…that is a GD mouse! And he deserves more than drama…he deserves a frigging shot to the head!
Why don’t you stop dating men who cause the damn drama? Probably because the dysfunctional men are the only men you find appealing. Dysfunctional attracts dysfunctional.
i dont think dats true because what i say is what i mean and if i do play game i know when to draw the line and i have a good reason he gives me one .
Am a teen and i guess we dont do those lil old school things nomore if we got a problem in ournrelationship we talk about it r we confront him r just let him go cuz he’s not the only boy in this world. I got alot of times to find the right MAN for ME
Whoever taught you to write deserves a place in hell. If you want a high quality man, you need to mature and earn a decent education. An accomplished man is not going to enter into a committed relationship with a woman who talks as if she just stepped out of a hip hop video.
Some of what I’ve learned in my thirty eight years:
-It is near impossible to please a woman, keep her happy AND meet her emotional needs if you are a man. The sooner you accept this, the better off you will be. Part of this could be because up to a certain age they have no idea what they want. Part of this is the way we guys are made. We need to learn certain skills women are simply born with.
-Women need and create drama in their lives. If it’s a woman, there will be drama. Scale from one to ten and different from girl to girl, but it is guaranteed to be there. A group of guys could be hanging out at home having a great time watching the game and drinking some beer. What does the Drama Scale measure? Zero. When the women come home, the Drama Scale jumps well past five. As soon as they walk in the door, that breeze you feel is Drama making its presence known. It’s just how it is. They often use drama to get what they want.
-It might be subconscious and some girls might not even be aware. Hell, it may simply be instinctual. If they are using drama to test a man to see if he passes, when he does pass why the hell don’t they stop with the damn tests?????
-Guys do not possess the ability to process subtle hints, and this often leads to drama on her part. “If he loved me he’d pick up on my signs.” Sorry. We need blunt, direct communication when its something you want/need. Place both hands on our face, look us in the eyes and say, “SUBTLE HINT! SUBTLE HINT!” And proceed telling us what you need to tell us. Problem solved.
-Women love to analyze every word guys say from at least five different directions and they process this information faster than a supercomputer. One of the directions she analyzes his words is always: I wonder if he’s cheating.
-Women are expert verbal manipulators/communicators. (see tests above) Guys, on the other hand, possess the verbal skills of a slightly-evolved caveman.
-Women need their men to prove themselves all the time. Why so insecure ladies? Why the fear of abandonment?
-Every word has a different degree of meaning. There are no such things as synonyms in a woman’s mind. When you try to use the “I didn’t say I was angry, I said I was upset” line in any variation, you come off as an ahole. But it’s fair game when she does it.
-Women are attracted to the outgoing/self-confident/assertive/life-of-the-party/jerk types and will try to change them into the nice guys they never want in the first place. (Can you tell I’m a recovering nice guy who finally learned to create attraction after much frustration of hearing the you’re-a-really-nice-guy-but-let’s-just-be-friends speech?) I always loved the irony I felt when my lady friends would say to me as a former nice guy, “SoandSo was so rude and treated me like a whore. Why can’t I find a guy like you?”
Through philosophy books and books on Eastern religions I’ve learned that happiness comes when not seeking it. Constantly trying to be happy leads to being unhappy. Think of how elated and overjoyed you are when you say you’re happy. How long does that feeling last? It tapers off quickly and pretty soon you’re back to where you were before. So you move on to acquiring the next object/experience you believe will make you happy. You finally attain it and guess what? That feeling tapers off…just like it always does. Anticipation is often better than acquisition every time.
I happen to believe women, FAR more than men, are truly unable to be 100% content with any aspect of their lives. “There must be some problem to fix SOMEWHERE! There just HAS to be something wrong with someone who I can help!” A woman could be granted a wish to have everything exactly as she wanted/needed to be 100% happy, but there would always be this nagging feeling that something was wrong. You could solve the energy crisis if you could figure out how to harness a woman’s WorryEnergy.
Women are fixers for sure, and maybe this is where the need for conflict/drama comes in? I suppose this is all part of being so in touch with their emotions and experiencing life through the prism of their emotions.
If you guys get the chance, try to overhear a group of women having lunch. Geez. It’s amazing how they stay with their men who are so terribly inept and incompetent at so many things! Do these guys have any good qualities at all? The need for drama/conflict often makes them unable to see those good qualities. Good qualities are boring and safe. Where’s the mystery and excitement in boring and safe?
Maybe there’s a certain age a woman must attain before her torrent of drama/conflict fueled emotions calms down. Maybe it’s menopause that finally calms the Drama Creators down? Who knows.
In my experience, being content with who I am and with what I have and never chasing someone or something I mistakenly believe will fill the void to make me truly happy, IS true happiness.
Funny story. My last girlfriend was admittedly high maintenance. “I’m high maintenance, but I’m worth it.” Her exact words. One night, I called her bluff and, when not getting what she wanted, she stormed out of my place with heavy footsteps, SLAMMED the door at 2 AM (never mind the neighbors), and waited in her car a minute or two for me to chase after her. I turned out the lights and went to bed. I don’t do the chasing after thing when they’re being childish.
So these are just some random musings ladies. I’d love to hear your thoughts. Am I way off base? Right maybe a little bit? Let me know.
women are mostley , immature fucked up , ridiculous idiots, they dont know a thing about life , they are so brainwashed to believing the crap out there, the dont want a man they want drama, they are fucked.
I don’t think women want to cause drama. Yes, we are emotional, and depending on how emotional we are depends on how understanding we need a man to be. Do I say encourage the irrational behavior? No. I think encouraging only allows a woman to want to cause more drama because she may turn needy.
Don’t just ignore drama though. Talk it out with her, because you both became angry over a situation that you’re misunderstanding. If you ignore it or instigate it more, it only causes more misunderstandings between the both of you and it takes two to misunderstand in a relationship or even in a situation.
If a man’s intentions are construed, he needs to get her attention and tell her: you stupid bitch…you’ve got it all wrong! Maybe not in that context, but you get the idea. Talking it out will allow her to realize her mistake, and she’ll apologize and try to make it up later on. Ignoring her will only allow her to make the situation worse by her thinking stranger thoughts–unless you’re going to break it off with her completely because of the drama.
For instance, a friend of mine was in a situation where her boyfriend was angry with her because she felt they weren’t spending enough time together. He would place his family first all the time, and she could barely get any time alone with him as a couple. Eventually, he got angry with her and threatened to break up with her. She then got extremely uptight and started blaming herself. However, her boyfriend (being mature), decided to talk it out with her and they both realized they had been wrong and he apologized for the threat.
It’s all up to you whether you think the drama is worth breaking off the relationship. She’ll get hurt? Yes. But she’ll get over it eventually find someone who will take the time to understand her feelings. But in reality, she has to try to understand his as well, so they can move on from the drama and just enjoy themselves as a couple.
This is so full of shit I say those things but I mean it not into hidden meaning of answering questions to get a response to another question. If this is what women are doing its just an act of their own stupidity.The only kind of lady who would ask those questions looking for meaning to something else would be a little girl you specify that this is for dumb girls who are in their twenties……….
This is so full of shit I say those things but I mean it not into hidden meaning of answering questions to get a response to another question. If this is what women are doing its just an act of their own stupidity.The only kind of lady who would ask those questions looking for meaning to something else would be a little girl you should specify that this is for dumb girls who are in their twenties……….